I turned 50 on May 13th. It is not for the faint at heart. I see a lot changes but God has not given us a spirit of fear. I have been married 25 years to a man who met me as a true “brick house.” How things have changed. We have four beautiful daughters, three here and one in the arms of the Lord. They are 21, 19 and 15. I have 10 lbs. remaining with me from each pregnancy. The lasting legacy of love is that those pounds are no longer “baby weight”, but “Casey weight” How beautiful!…not!
My loving husband says, “but that was your girl body and this is your woman body and I love your woman body” ….. right…. okay. I’m different, I’m changing. I do not want surgery. I don’t want to be forever 21, but this does take some getting use to. I’m smarter, wiser and better and I know it. My daughters now have the figures I used to have. I look at them in awe and so do the men in every room we enter. I gently pass the baton and wait on the Lord as he reveals new joys each day to my emerging middle age life!
Know that your beauty is ageless and God will show you how to “work fifty.” As a creative writing teacher, there must be healing words to prompt us to think and laugh so I’m sharing a Julia Alvarez poem for your enjoyment:
My friend Carol says aging evens out
the advantage of beautiful women
over plain ones. The beautiful have to
watch their beauty fade in their own and men’s
eyes. I can only talk small, having been
pretty, on good days almost beautiful.
These days in conversation with a man,
I’ll catch his eyes searching for beautiful
women in the room, and I want to cry
out: If I could take some years off with my
clothes, you’d find a nice-looking girl before
you! Ex-gorgeous Carol says men ignore
her much more than she’s used to or seem bored
with her theories. But I hear you, Carol.
Miracles & Blessings,
Author Casey Curry holds a degree in philosophy and religion and a minor in fine arts. She is married to a career military officer and is the mother of four beautiful daughters, ranging in age from 10 to 17.
Curry is the author and illustrator of the ground breaking children’s interactive grief book, I Remember You Today, written after the death of her youngest daughter. Her three year old Tori Rose died March 11, 1999 and is now ageless.
Her love for children and children’s interest spans decades. Casey is the founder of the Mother Daughter Book Club of Hampton Roads in Virginia Beach, Virginia. As an elementary school art teacher, Casey developed an art history based curriculum at the Naval Academy Primary School in Maryland.
Having completed thirteen military moves, Casey, her husband and her three surviving daughters currently live in Florida.